How to Improve Your Relationship with Your Child Before Ramadan? (Negative Energy Detox Challenge)

The pressure on parents, especially mothers, increases during Ramadan. As we always emphasize, your emotional state and energy are absorbed by your child, shaping their personality—whether into a calm and confident child or a fearful, stubborn, and insecure one. In this article, you will learn how to apply this challenge for a week before Ramadan begins or even during the month itself. Consider it a new opportunity to strengthen your bond with your child and eliminate unnecessary stress.

What Is the Negative Energy Detox Challenge Before Ramadan?

Start by gradually training yourself as a parent to shift focus from your child’s negative behaviors, shortcomings, or bothersome actions. Instead of dwelling on them, overlook minor issues and concentrate on your child’s positive actions.
Begin by acknowledging and praising your child's positive actions while ignoring minor fights with siblings or other annoying behaviors.

How to Apply This Challenge and Practice Balanced Parenting?

This challenge does not mean neglecting discipline or avoiding guiding your child when they make mistakes. Overlooking negativity does not mean allowing bad behavior to continue unchecked. It also does not mean ignoring their homework or daily responsibilities.

However, instead of constantly pointing out negative behaviors, try reversing your approach: Instead of focusing on ten negative aspects and one positive, do the opposite! Praise ten positive actions, no matter how small, while addressing only one negative behavior that bothers you the most.

Examples of Small Positive Affirmations:

• "Bravo! You ate at the dining table!"

• "Great job returning your plate to the kitchen!"

• "Well done for listening today!"

• "Good job finishing your homework!"

• "You were very polite and calm today!"

• "Thank you, sweetheart, for helping mom!"

Key Factors for Success in This Challenge

First Factor:

Make sure your child hears your praise clearly and consistently. Express appreciation openly and continue practicing patience by overlooking minor negatives.
With time, your child will naturally improve their behavior and focus on positive actions, to receive praise and attention from their parents. As they feel more loved and noticed, their negative behaviors will begin to fade, and their focus on good conduct will increase.

Second Factor:

Keep in mind that your child won’t change overnight! Their behavior will not shift instantly with a push of a button. You need to be patient and consistent, and start gradually until you reach the stage where their behavior transforms completely.

Conclusion

When you focus on the good and offer encouragement instead of constant criticism, you will gradually notice an improvement in your child’s behavior and an increase in their confidence. Use this challenge as an opportunity to create a calmer, happier home environment. Keep practicing these habits until they become a way of life that brings both you and your child greater peace and understanding.